The Gift of Memory When friends and relatives share their own memories and thoughts in writing they give a child a remembrance that they can refer to again and again. Once the funeral is over and the condolences have been said, grieving children get on with the most difficult task of learning how to live the rest of their lives without a parent who has died. Give that child the gift of your memory by creating a page for a memory book. It's the Little Things that Mean the Most A memory book helps a child to remember a parent as more than a frozen picture in time.  Share a funny story, what you'll remember, how you met.  See "What Can I Say?" and Sample Pages on this site for more ideas.